Me a (44M) found my wife (44F) multiple dating sites

I'm m44 my wife is f44. I recently found my wife on a bunch of different dating apps. She swears to me that she is just on them because she is bored and stoned and has nothing else to do.. I even found a post where she was offering herself money. That one hurt. She did let me go through all the sites on her phone and computer there were never any replies back on her part. We have been married for 5 years. I'm an over the road truck driver. Up until recently I used to be out for months at a time, trying to support us. I recently took a new job that gets me home a lot more. I've tried to give her everything she's ever wanted. I know it's been hard on her with me being away for such long periods of time. I do trust her on the fact she not cheated on me physicaly. Recently we've been going through money troubles. But I've always provided the best that I can. She has always had a roof, food gas clothes and anything she needs. There were a couple months where she worked and the money was great, I thought we were doing great but she quite. Now it is all back on me like it has been. She hates the fact I control the money. I have to though. I take care of eyerything financially. She wants nothing to do with that. She doesn't have a driver license yet she wants me to buy her a van so she can live a van life while I'm away also pay for the gas insurance food and any breakdown expenses that might happen. She's recently called me and told me I'm the greatest man ever, any woman would be lucky to have me. She also said she's just too greedy and wants more. She complains about me being in insecure. That I spend too much of my time trying to make her and everyone eles happy besides myself. So AITHA I don't know. Any opinions.I would like to say how I found her on the dating sites is because we set up a email account on my phone because she tends to lose her phone a lot and it was a way that if she lost her phone I could get on and find it. She forgot that the email account that we had set up just to find her phone was still link to my phone. So all the dating app sites that she was on and all the replies she got were sent to my phone, as well as hers.