Being a lesbian revolving around you hating men and not revolving around you loving women

does it make sense? i cant explain it properly because i am pretty bad at english but i hope i get my point across

i dont know this might be controversial… im also against the disgusting man behavior but i hate it when a woman calls calls herself/correlates the idea of being a lesbian because she is hating men.

I am mostly referring to the ones that are both straight up and not so straight up, but I feel usually this is said just so subtly, especially to those who are confused about labelling their sexuality.

it makes it sound like a woman loving a woman, not be about loving a woman but more about not loving a man.